Gator and I weren't looking for a poly relationship at all...even if we knew such a thing existed. Tech and Kitten were looking to find a few couples that they could be close friends with and do other things with. They didn't expect to find it all in one couple I've heard Tech say.
We met each other swinging and at dinner that first night we talked for hours and hours. We tied up the table at the restaurant so long that I gave our waitress an additional tip...for the people that would normally have been seated at our table after we left (if we had left after a normal amount of time). We then talked for at least another hour outside the restaurant. And it was cold!!! We just all hit it off so well. (Not sure why we didn't play that first night.) Before we knew it we were seeing them on Gator's one weekend off a month time and again. Then on the days off he had during the week some.
If you read my other posts, you'll know that Gator and Kitten fell for each other right away. While Tech and I liked each other and were attracted to each other, we didn't fall in love right away. Neither of us are quick to let others in. And truthfully, I also tried to protect against it. It wasn't until we actually said we weren't going to see each other any more (youngest son had real problems with this) that Tech and I realized what we meant to each other. It only took a day and we met to talk and settle things with them. Been together ever since.
We would like to live together one day. We live 2 hours apart right now. Therefore, we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like. We try but, life just interferes at times.
We don't currently swing. May never do so. Some of us are ok with swinging and some of us think they have all they need and don't want to swing any more. But no matter which category we fall in, the truth of the matter is we have trouble finding time to spend together much less adding that to the mix. We have been trying to cement are relationships and make it through the rough patches you come across when four people enter a relationship. Especially if you had never considered being in a poly relationship to start with. It fell into our laps and we have been learning on the fly how things work.
Ok, this really turned into a small novel.
Sorry about that.
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