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Welcome to the Swingers Board, 24inflorida

Originally Posted by 24inflorida

Hi Everyone! My husband and I are new to the community, and just testing the waters. There is so much info on this forum, it's awesome! But...there is still alot we don't understand about the lifestyle.

We have been here a while, and to be honest, there are things we don't understand as well. It's OK though, because we know where we fit in the lifestyle. We think your on a good start if your talking to each other and staying on the same page.

We are from Central Florida, so I guess it's a great place to be. There are Swinger Clubs everywhere, but we've never been to one, and we don't know any swingers to show is around.

Not sure what you mean by that ? Swingers like us find ways to find each other. That could be using the swingers profile sites like, Swinglifestyle or swingerzonecentral, here or looking into public telephone numbers to the swinger clubs, in your area. Most clubs have websites explaining everything they offer and a guideline of expected behavior.

Here is my main question. I don't want to be with another man, at all. Even if the opportunity came up, and my hubby said it was OK, I still wouldn't.

I don't understand ??? This is a statement, Not a question....Thats fine, you should find that lifestyle men, are generally respectful. You will also find that others have things they will, and will not do. Its mutual respect

Is there chances for us, say at a swinger club, to find single women?

Yes

Or couples where the man wants his wife to have sex with another man but not get any in return? (We would both watch my husband and the other woman.)

No, at least as far as I have seen. Not saying its impossible, but we wouldn't ask anyone. And we have never been asked.

See, I am just like you. There is some stuff, I don't want to do either. We are all entitled. I just don't want to have sex with a woman, while Mrs fun and someone else's partner watches. Even if they weren't heckling me, any slight conversation would kind of distract me from giving my partner the best sensuality, I would want to provide and feel. I like to feel the Passion. There is only one thing I like more, and thats seeing Mrs Fun enjoying the same.

On the other hand, so you don't want to have sex with me. I'm cool with that. But, this is something we would have to talk about in person. I would be thinking what do ya wanna do while their doing it. I'm not the type to... you know, be playing with myself while their doing it. Give me an example of how we could have some kind of fun together. Your are talking about first, Mrs fun wanting or even desiring your husband. Then you have to convince me, this would be something I would want to go along with.

See what I'm getting at ?

If your talking about meeting someone at a club. You have to have some really good social skills with people like us. How do each of you deal with meeting new people now ? Do you talk to new people, make new friends out of strangers now ?

Also my husband is completely straight, and would not want to be involved with another man...but would be OK with being watched. This is all we want.

I don't know how to take that ? I'll just consider your new I guess. I can only say, so far I haven't had any men chase me around with their weenies out, at a club.

I should say, be prepared. I have seen a bunch of them though. I mean dicks. All shapes and sizes, colors and even a few pierced ones. I'm quite sure about my straightness. But the thing is, If your husbands that worried, that you have to repeat it.... Its worth thinking about. I mean, if say Mr bigger weenie comes walking up to me and you, while Mrs fun and your hubby are fucking like crazy. Would that bother him ? Will it bother you ? Would you want me to keep other men away from you ? Could you do that on your own. Sorry to ask so many questions, but as a male with a wife you might be interested in, we have to talk

I know it's almost impossible to find a MFF threesome,

Ya know, every time we hear this it just amazes us to no end. We just cant imagine this being the end of the chapter in swinging. First I can say, Mrs fun is capeable of having friends, that can expand to a greater level. Its nothing to do with me wanting a threesome. It's about her and a few friends including me in a sexual part of their lives.

Does that make any sense ?

Then I actually took a step forward, or changed coarse. I found someone that interested me. You know, like if you were just walking along one day and saw someone and thought, wow, I would like to know more about this person. No particular reason, but you just want to know more about them. I brought this to Mrs funs attention one day and she sat with me talking about how I felt. She actually encouraged me to find my answers, to find out the feelings I had. I took a chance, I introduced myself and my wife as US. How would you feel about something like that ? Would you be supportive of your husband choosing someone he was interested in, and support his feelings ?

but We just really don't want another man involved.

O.k. we got that part, its not as big of an issue as you might think.

(I am bisexual) ANY ADVISE?

This could be a whole thread on its own. What part do you need advice on ?

I have read alot of posts that advise against things like this and say it is very hard to find, but I've never been to a swinger club, and have no idea what to expext. I also know that the age range at most swinger clubs is about 10years older than we are, at 24years old.

We went to Circle City Socials a few weeks ago, A hotel takeover. I would guess 10 to 15 percent were your age. I felt pretty comfortable around the younger crowd as I mingled around. They seemed really mature compared to most vanilla people I know. It was all good, right on

We have a good relationship, have been married for almost 3 years, and have talked about this alot. We feel that we're mature enough to handle the ramifictions...mainly that I won't freak out when I see my husband having sex with another girl, so we're ready to go, but don't know where to start.

I think you have already started, its where your at now, Just talking... Don't stop talking, even if you don't swing. Its one of the most positive things in a relationship.....