 Re: New With Questions
Many times you will find couples that have different rules for play than you do. We have found it is more the "norm" for the more open couple to accomodate the less open couple and step it down a little. For example it is easier for a full swap couple to soft swap with a new coupe than vice versa. At any rate it is our opinion that you should never overstep your boundaries but rather understep them if you need to.
Regarding the unkempt and pushy males at the party you were at....perhaps it is time to find a different party where you would be less uncomfortable. The other evening we were at a party where a lot of drama ensued between one or two couples. Needless to say the party was pretty much ruined for everyone after that. Things happen and you did the right thing by going to a different area quietly. Things like this are going to happen, and the best way to handle it is in a quiet and adult manner as you did.
Finally, you will find a lot of ads for couples which are in reality single males masquerading as a couple for better response. I think we get at least one or two of these a month. The more experienced you become, the easier it is to recognize. Trust your instincts.
Finally, one of the difficulties a lot of us have is where both partners agree on the couple. It is indeed a challenge. Persevere and sooner or later you will find a couple that is good for both of you.
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