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LilyPuss · 01-26-2009, 06:34 PM

We are totally new to this realm! We have joined some of the sites, been to an on-site club (more in a minute) as well as chatted with several couples. We have a date scheduled for this week with a couple we met on-line. We have explained to them that we are not willing to play on a first date (that is always subject to change). Wish that I had found this site first, as the couple we are meeting is new to the world as well! At least everyone will be equally as nervous, I think...will let you know how it turns out!

I also have a question about finding the right couples... We consider ourselves fairly attractive, we are educated, employed, etc. What we have run into is couples were we were only attracted to one of the mates...Is this like the proverbial needle in the haystack? Let's be honest, you have to feel some attraction (at least we do) to the other players involved or our bodies don't respond the way they need to in order to play.

Back to the first ever club venture...

Very nervous. VERY. This was an on-premise club. There were beautiful bodies everywhere! Lots of sexual energy! We were pretty subdued at the beginning. The couple behind us was nice, young (we are in our 40's) and attractive. We were both pretty quiet, not like us at all. The table in front of us had 2 couples. 2 fairly attractive and fit women (maybe early 50's) with their not so appealing husbands (same age as the ladies; very overweight, lots of unkempt facial hair). As the evening progressed, my husband began playing with my breasts. One of the large men from the table in front came right up to our table, literally drooling; this is what came out of his mouth: "I see you brought the puppies out! Man, puppies are nice." We quickly left the table and went to the VIP section (he did not have a VIP bracelet on).

We were both dumbfounded by that statement. Is this normal? Did we over react to what we considered to be rude as well as an invasion of our space? How is the best way to handle a situation such as this? He continued to stare at us when we returned to the table. We spent the rest of the evening in the VIP room.

Also, one of the couples we met on-line, we spoke with them via email several times, eventually exchanging phone numbers. We had a few meetings set up; they kept canceling (we understand, life does happen), though we were willing to give them another shot. The husband kept pestering us to change our mind on the same room only thing (they wanted separate rooms, we don't). We kept politely declining, telling him we may change our minds later, but for now, no. I started getting creeped out by him. They also did not like our choice of clubs we like (fair enough). All of a sudden they wanted to go to the club we enjoy, asking us every few days if we were available on such and such a date. We have explained to them, we don't want to meet people we are interested in in such a sexual environment for the first meeting (meeting folks at a club is a completely different situation). How do you handle people like this? Also, we both suspect that he is not really married, he has a friend for such hook-ups, to more or less get him in the door. Does this happen often?

I have really enjoyed perusing this site! Fabulous information! My husband and I are going to go through it together this evening... Thank you!

01-26-2009, 06:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
LilyPuss Active Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 14 Location: Texas Status: Couple	First club venture and question about finding couples We are totally new to this realm! We have joined some of the sites, been to an on-site club (more in a minute) as well as chatted with several couples. We have a date scheduled for this week with a couple we met on-line. We have explained to them that we are not willing to play on a first date (that is always subject to change). Wish that I had found this site first, as the couple we are meeting is new to the world as well! At least everyone will be equally as nervous, I think...will let you know how it turns out! I also have a question about finding the right couples... We consider ourselves fairly attractive, we are educated, employed, etc. What we have run into is couples were we were only attracted to one of the mates...Is this like the proverbial needle in the haystack? Let's be honest, you have to feel some attraction (at least we do) to the other players involved or our bodies don't respond the way they need to in order to play. Back to the first ever club venture... Very nervous. VERY. This was an on-premise club. There were beautiful bodies everywhere! Lots of sexual energy! We were pretty subdued at the beginning. The couple behind us was nice, young (we are in our 40's) and attractive. We were both pretty quiet, not like us at all. The table in front of us had 2 couples. 2 fairly attractive and fit women (maybe early 50's) with their not so appealing husbands (same age as the ladies; very overweight, lots of unkempt facial hair). As the evening progressed, my husband began playing with my breasts. One of the large men from the table in front came right up to our table, literally drooling; this is what came out of his mouth: "I see you brought the puppies out! Man, puppies are nice." We quickly left the table and went to the VIP section (he did not have a VIP bracelet on). We were both dumbfounded by that statement. Is this normal? Did we over react to what we considered to be rude as well as an invasion of our space? How is the best way to handle a situation such as this? He continued to stare at us when we returned to the table. We spent the rest of the evening in the VIP room. Also, one of the couples we met on-line, we spoke with them via email several times, eventually exchanging phone numbers. We had a few meetings set up; they kept canceling (we understand, life does happen), though we were willing to give them another shot. The husband kept pestering us to change our mind on the same room only thing (they wanted separate rooms, we don't). We kept politely declining, telling him we may change our minds later, but for now, no. I started getting creeped out by him. They also did not like our choice of clubs we like (fair enough). All of a sudden they wanted to go to the club we enjoy, asking us every few days if we were available on such and such a date. We have explained to them, we don't want to meet people we are interested in in such a sexual environment for the first meeting (meeting folks at a club is a completely different situation). How do you handle people like this? Also, we both suspect that he is not really married, he has a friend for such hook-ups, to more or less get him in the door. Does this happen often? I have really enjoyed perusing this site! Fabulous information! My husband and I are going to go through it together this evening... Thank you!