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Originally posted by naughty A
In my experience... BDSM people more or less only play with their own partners... in the event that you are playing with a person other than your partner you have to ask permission of the Dom/me to play with someone elses toys, be it a person or object. You cannot just jump into it.
Scenes are generally carefully negotiated in advance what is and is not acceptable behaviour, whether it is rough talk or whatever. A good Dom wants to push the limits of excitement not break the rules or trample the comfort zone.
If it was something that was "awakened" in her ... she should be exploring it with her partner not an unknown ... especially one with such a bad attitude. |
Being one of those BDSM people, you are correct in what you said about negotiation, in fact my husband and I have even done a presentation for our local group on exactly that. A Top, at times, will want to push those boundaries, though, generally with their SO.
Also realize that for many people BDSM play is not necessarily sexual. My husband plays regularly with a lady that just enjoys the endorphin rush she gets from a good beating. He's even beaten her a day or two before a college exam to keep her mellow. Believe me, there is NOTHING sexual about this relationship even though she is stark naked, no sexual type touching happens.
As for trying it out with her partner, it may be too difficult for him to be able to treat her that way or for her to "buy into it" if he should try.
This post sounds more like rough sex and dirty talk, that wonderful feeling of "not being in control so what ever wonderfully nasty thing happens to me it's not my fault". Though like many who have read it, I'm questioning how "real" is it. Sounds just a little to far-fetched for me to believe.
TymKeepr
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