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Originally Posted by exploringRM  Though I don't want to sound shallow, but I'm thinking we should ask ourselves first, can we have sex with these people and then after decide, could we be friends. |
I think this is the right approach. You may be surprised at the people you meet this way. Sometimes people who don't seem like the majority of your vanilla friends in status, profession, temperament, hobbies etc. can become good friends. We find those friendships very rewarding.
Good luck. From what you have written, you seem to be going through a real evolution in your way of thinking and approaching things. Mr. Fuse and I have done that too, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, and often cluelessly. We started out meeting people almost exclusively from online ads. Now, we meet and discover chemistry with at least as many people through parties and meet and greets as we do online. Some of those people are becoming friends. Most of the time, we start out as play partners with the potential for friends, as you described above. I'll be interested to hear how you evolve from here!