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exploringRM · 01-18-2009, 05:40 PM

I had perhaps a realization today...Though we really want to find friends out of this lifestyle, people we can hang with and not just one night stands, when we try to meet people online thinking they might click outside of sex, we don't click on the sexual side! Only a few couples so far so no where near a valid statistical sampling, but wondering if others have experienced this. Though I don't want to sound shallow, but I'm thinking we should ask ourselves first, can we have sex with these people and then after decide, could we be friends. I'm thinking in our search for compatible people overall, we tend to be less choosy from a physical aspect thinking well maybe the total package will sway us. Had that conversation with Mrs. exploring today that she needs to really ask herself, when she sees an online photo, do I see myself entangled with the other person. She's the ultimate decision maker and I'm fine with that.

(on the other hand, I sometimes ask are we being too picky...but I think it's worth being picky to find what we really want)

01-18-2009, 05:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
exploringRM Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 850 Location: York, PA Status: Couple - he posts/reads Swing Lifestyle Name:hereforfunrm	Re: Tips in Seeking Friends with Benefits I had perhaps a realization today...Though we really want to find friends out of this lifestyle, people we can hang with and not just one night stands, when we try to meet people online thinking they might click outside of sex, we don't click on the sexual side! Only a few couples so far so no where near a valid statistical sampling, but wondering if others have experienced this. Though I don't want to sound shallow, but I'm thinking we should ask ourselves first, can we have sex with these people and then after decide, could we be friends. I'm thinking in our search for compatible people overall, we tend to be less choosy from a physical aspect thinking well maybe the total package will sway us. Had that conversation with Mrs. exploring today that she needs to really ask herself, when she sees an online photo, do I see myself entangled with the other person. She's the ultimate decision maker and I'm fine with that. (on the other hand, I sometimes ask are we being too picky...but I think it's worth being picky to find what we really want)