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Originally Posted by westcan  in bed she prefers to let the man do all the work and be somewhat agressive while she prefers to be laid back and passive. Would this be dissappointing to other men? |
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Originally Posted by IvoryTowers Finally, at least in my (admitted limited) experience, most men in swinging won't be "aggressive" in any way, because they are very aware that they are having sex with a brand new partner, and someone else's wife to boot! They will ask permission, they will proceed gently, and they will look for cues from her. Now, you might mean "take charge" rather than literally be aggressive, but again, your wife should be ready to give verbal and physical cues that let the guy know he's doing good stuff! She might not need to stick his dick down her throat, but she should be encouraging and responsive, maybe more so than with you, since you know her cues and the new man won't. |
Yea this was a red flag to me, in fact there are a lot of red flags here.
First, I'd think a rule for swinging is that you have to be somewhat into sex. She doesn't sound like its her thing. A wet fish in bed is going to be sending a lot of negative signals to the male partners brain.
Is she really into me? Is she into this? Is her husband forcing her into swinging? Why is she just laying there? Boy my wife is having a good time over there, I wish I was. Hey do you think the Cubs will coke this year? I'm hungry.
After a few of these you might find that you are then posting things like 'Why can't guys keep it up for swinging?' or 'Swinging sex not very good?'
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she might get very jealous of seeing me with someone. I have told her many times that to me love and sex are very different and that I am 100 per cent certain that she is my only love and it would never change [she really is the best woman I have ever met in every way and I utterly adore her].
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The vibe I get is she isn't quite ready for swinging. Personally I'd teach her how to take a little more initiative in bed (you can learn these things), and make sure she knows in her heart (the head doesn't matter) that she is #1.