 the bdsm lifestyle
I am not an expert but I do know that there are a few people on this board that do practice it.
I am a novice in this regard, public play, but I don't think that this was even an impromptu scene... allowing someone else to be in control is very liberating but only if you can give them your complete trust. Apparently I am what they refer to as a "player" because we play for a preset limited time period and when it is over we go back to regular behaviour and because I can take it or leave it ... it is not essential to my sexual excitement.
In my experience... BDSM people more or less only play with their own partners... in the event that you are playing with a person other than your partner you have to ask permission of the Dom/me to play with someone elses toys, be it a person or object. You cannot just jump into it.
Scenes are generally carefully negotiated in advance what is and is not acceptable behaviour, whether it is rough talk or whatever. A good Dom wants to push the limits of excitement not break the rules or trample the comfort zone.
If it was something that was "awakened" in her ... she should be exploring it with her partner not an unknown ... especially one with such a bad attitude.
and several of you are right NO ONE IS THAT HOT! that you would risk your marriage and your health as well as your self respect ? No. Whether this posting was real or not it is distressing either way. |