I have to agree with Lori's last post. I don't think things went terribly wrong until towards the end when the husband stepped in and stopped things. Rather than allowing things to stop and discussing things with her husband she ran after the fling. Wrong choice there.
Most likely, yes, this woman discovered something she had never experienced before and she was enjoying it. She got way too carried away in the moment tho and allowed her sexual urges to outplay her own relationship and boundaries that had been established with her husband.
The better way to have handled this situation would have been to allow things to stop and let the boy and his ego leave the room. Discuss what happened with her husband and why he stopped things/ why didn't want things to stop. From there thay can go on and perhaps in the future they will find someone else who will give her that side that her husband can't.
Should they toss in their one rule and swing separately? That is really for them to discuss. Even the early responses to this post agreed that swinging is about fulfilling fantasies and doing what feels good. If this is a fantasy that she has that the husband can't act on himself then why not allow someone else to fulfill it. However, it would be better if they find someone that they can trust and who's ego won't get in the way of the enjoyment of everyone. Establish boundaries (especially in a scenario like this) of what is and is not allowed and find someone who is willing to follow those boundaries. I think the husband should be in the room for the very reason of what happened in this instance. IF she so easily gets carried away in the moment then she needs him there to stop things when they go too far. |