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Originally Posted by Joebarchuck  How do you know if you are part of the people that will enjoy it or get destroyed by it?
What limits should we fix to keep our relationship ours? (For example no kissing, etc...)
Thank you for any help we can get. |
Strong, secure, open, honest couples are the ones that are not destroyed by swinging. So how does a couple become strong, secure, open and honest? By opening their hearts to each other. By talking about everything under the sun, fears, doubts, fantasies, and everything in between. Because at the end of the day, you're coming home to each other, the one that you want to spend your life with. Swinging cannot destroy such a couple.
I am not judging you by the fact that you have been together only 6 months. My husband and I have known each other 19 years, and been together 13. Once the idea of swinging was discussed, it literally took us 6 months to really open up to each other. And we thought we were always open and honest before! And through our discussions, boy did we find out so much we didn't know, about ourselves and each other.
So I would say before you consider jumping from fantasy to reality, you both would have to spend a lot more time getting deep into each other's hearts and souls.
You mentioned that she brought up that she was "thinking" about a threesome, and then talk about an ex. So it sounds like she may have an interest, but you don't know if it's just a hot fantasy or not.
She also told you she "doesn't need a threesome to be happy with you". Good answer from her! No one should ever "need" an outsider in the bedroom. It is for pleasure and enjoyment and exploration of sexuality. Yes, it may fulfill a physical need, but that's in addition to your own sex life together.
Keep reading through these boards. There's a lot of experience to pull from. And keep talking to each other. Don't make any decisions either way yet - take the time to explore each other and see where it leads.