[IvoryTowers]

It is unlikely that you will find people on this board who have been utterly destroyed by swinging and are still posting regularly, so although I understand your desire to gather information, I wouldn't expect too much from that angle.

I think that getting into swinging even before the 6 month mark is drastically rushing things and probably will not end well (unless both of you were swingers before and knew that about each other). You should still be in the throes of NRE (new relationship energy) still focused on exploring each other! And I agree with Julie--what's the rush? Please tell me you aren't planning on having children with someone you started dating 5 months ago!

I'm still new to this, but Mr. Ivory and I talked about and researched swinging for longer than your entire relationship. We had a solid foundation of love, respect and trust. We understood each others' principles, beliefs and reactions to stress. And we still had some pretty big arguments once we got going.

While it is possible that a brand new relationship could thrive on swinging, I think it is much more likely that the stress will cause it to crack or tear apart.