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Joebarchuck · 01-15-2009, 11:44 AM

Hello everyone,

I am writing this thread hoping I will be able to get constructive advice on my questions and doubts. I do understand sharing your partner is not for everyone and I do understand that some couples love it and it makes their relationship stronger, filled with excitment and joy but others are destroyed by it.

Let me tell you a bit more about us: we are a relatively new relationship less than 6 months. We both love each other very much and before we started dating I remember my girlfriend mentionning she was thinking about a threesome with another man. I brought it up multiple times during sex as a fantasy and we were both turned on then we started to talk about it outside of sex and that is when all the questions start to come...

Her current position: I don't need a threesome to be happy with you. I love you and our sex life is great I would rather not do it and focus on us.

My position: I'd like to do it as I really get turned on by the idea but I don't want to imagine this when we have children at least young ones so it would have to be before, therefore soon.

The situation: She mentionned she knows a guy she used to have great recreational sex with that would totally do it. She says she has never felt any sort of romantic love for him just lust as he seems to be a muscular guy. The sex in between them was great and she said with him she knows she would not have any emotions involved.

I am just scared that I am turned on by the idea not the actual threesome. I need help in how to figure out if I would really want this or not and I forgot I am usually a jaleous person but with her I think I feel confortable as she would not confuse sex and love.

So a few questions:

How do you know if you are part of the people that will enjoy it or get destroyed by it?

Having an ex involved is that a good or bad idea knowing the ex was only one for sex and no love was ever involved?

What limits should we fix to keep our relationship ours? (For example no kissing, etc...)

Thank you for any help we can get.

01-15-2009, 11:44 AM	#1 (permalink)
Joebarchuck Registered Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 4 Location: Los Angeles Status: Couple	Doubts and More!!! Hello everyone, I am writing this thread hoping I will be able to get constructive advice on my questions and doubts. I do understand sharing your partner is not for everyone and I do understand that some couples love it and it makes their relationship stronger, filled with excitment and joy but others are destroyed by it. Let me tell you a bit more about us: we are a relatively new relationship less than 6 months. We both love each other very much and before we started dating I remember my girlfriend mentionning she was thinking about a threesome with another man. I brought it up multiple times during sex as a fantasy and we were both turned on then we started to talk about it outside of sex and that is when all the questions start to come... Her current position: I don't need a threesome to be happy with you. I love you and our sex life is great I would rather not do it and focus on us. My position: I'd like to do it as I really get turned on by the idea but I don't want to imagine this when we have children at least young ones so it would have to be before, therefore soon. The situation: She mentionned she knows a guy she used to have great recreational sex with that would totally do it. She says she has never felt any sort of romantic love for him just lust as he seems to be a muscular guy. The sex in between them was great and she said with him she knows she would not have any emotions involved. I am just scared that I am turned on by the idea not the actual threesome. I need help in how to figure out if I would really want this or not and I forgot I am usually a jaleous person but with her I think I feel confortable as she would not confuse sex and love. So a few questions: How do you know if you are part of the people that will enjoy it or get destroyed by it? Having an ex involved is that a good or bad idea knowing the ex was only one for sex and no love was ever involved? What limits should we fix to keep our relationship ours? (For example no kissing, etc...) Thank you for any help we can get.