We encountered our first full MFM also this past summer. It was great in many ways, a little uncomfortable in others since we had just met 1 time before. In a club situation , I think that shyness would go away since everyone knows what you are there for and that you are absolutely ready or you wouldn't be there. Working into it on private meets is sometimes a little more hesitant, but this one went well. The male took the lead which was very helpful. His being very largely endowed made for a few uncomfortable moments since I am "tight" and better suited to average girth males, but the excitement and erotic factor more than made up for it. My husband definitely enjoyed it! Just a word on timing...move at your own pace...although all here are interested in swinging, like clothes, we all have our own styles and some want it all , all the time, some just want occasional flings to spice things up. So enjoy and pick your own pace! Verdie