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Originally Posted by cobrit30  At first he was incdredably turned on. Now he is cooling off, saying he might not be interested after all. When I questioned him, he stated that if the guy decided to get violent, we might get hurt, as we are both samller and in our 50's. So I dropped it; then last night he started checking his email and talking about it during sex.. What gives ? |
He is just thinking about things. There is nothing wrong with that, especially if safety is a concern.
I know for us we keep the three S's alive and well placed. Safety, Sanity and Sex. I know there is allot more to having sex with others, but I can tell you as a husband who does meet with single men occasionally. I like the comfort of knowing I have control.
Not control of every thing that takes place as in power and control. But control of the situation should things get out of hand with someone, when we don't really know their entire history.
I think on this issue, you two need really go over this, if its a concern. Fortunately, there are many good people in the lifestyle. Unfortunately, there are some fucked up people also in the world. It's not impossible to sort them out, if we work as a team, together. I think your boyfriend is just taking things in stride. Thinking, and understanding allot now.
If you would like to come back and post again with more information. Maybe we could go over some of the safety issues. I know they are important to us as well.... We all had to start somewhere.
If there are other issues, we understand. It's perfectly normal.