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Personally, I don't know if I would handle being in a poly relationship. It takes a lot of trust and sorting things out to just open things up to sex...I can't even imagine what it takes to open up to the emotional aspect as well.

For the OP...it probably is a show of dominance (I would be interested to see an update on how/if things are still going) as far as the rather inauspicious beginnings...I mean, I would really have a hard time accepting that my husband had cheated on me and then turning around and welcoming her into our home and lives as a third. There would definitely be a 'power struggle' of sorts going on there.

ncmd...more details? Is it something you are personally experiencing or just have noticed happening?

I mean it's easier to have 'just sex' rather than try to elicit a guarantee that the other person's emotions could be reigned in or terminated if things get too uncomfortable.