[OhioCouple]

I am going to have to agree with Teknurse here. I too am bothered by this. If that sort of activity were not a part of my husband's and my normal sexual activity, nor had we discussed the possibilty of it before hand, he would have been very upset to see someone treat me in that manner. Let's just say that the 'local stud' very well could have gone home with more than a bruised ego.

I don't feel swinging separately is the solution for you. You need to sit down with your husband and explain that you were turned on by this and explore that with your husband first, not with the local stud. There is a major difference between using some naughty words and essentially creating a demanding rape scene. How was your husband to know that you were enjoying this as opposed to just 'going with the flow' out of shock and fear. I'd be willing to wager that the vast majority of husbands would have been just as shocked and appalled. This man rips off his rubber and then says he is going to shove his endowment up your ass? It sounds as though you have a condom rule and right there...that one is getting ready to be broken. Then you tell your 'loving, caring' husband off for protecting you and proceed to have unprotected oral sex with a man that has just had anal sex with your friend?

In my opinion you totally disrespected your husband and that signals big problems in your marriage. Rather than toss around the idea of swinging separately, you need to STOP swinging entirely and get your own house in order.

Like Teknurse, I am not sure why this post bothers me so much either. The more I think about it, the more bothered I become.

Lori