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Originally Posted by babycole  As far as Chicup's idea's on how the male mind is not wired for this kind of situation. And how it's unusual, and how several books have been written that support this theory. I have to say, I'm not so big on believing things just because they are written about. For instance, how many people in this world believe (and may have at one time taught or written on this subject) that monogamy is the only right way to live? However, many, many, many of us on this board would have to disagree with that. We have lived it and know that it can work when sex with other partners is involved in our relationships. I do believe that just because something isn't the norm in our less than normal world, doesn't mean that it's unusual or impossible. I mean, what is normal in our unusual world, right? Swinging? Poly? MFF Triads? MFM triads? MFMF quads? I mean, really, who's to say what's normal here? We are all unusual in a big way according to most of the rest of the world, right? |
My advice is offered free here.
No one has to take it or agree with it. In the range of human personalities there can be extreme's and off shoots that work in ways the general population can not. Being I do not know your personalities, and I have only the female side of the story I can only give advice based on what generally would work. Over all, at your age, and with your story, I can only recommend not perusing anything beyond a platonic relationship with the other man. You don't need to heed this advice, and maybe, not knowing everyone in detail, I'd be wrong in my assessment. Maybe not. Its up to you to decide, I just try to help as best I can.