That's about where we are, been with a few couples and have had a good time. Thought one couple was a good match, but after a few times together realize that while we enjoy spending time with them at the swing club, they are probably not a couple we have tons in common with to spend non-play time with.
When first looking at a profile, we of course take the shallow
path and say, could we fuck them. (Based on the pics, my answer is yes, more than the wife's...hate it when that happens) But additionally look for common interests, age, what they are looking to get out of the lifestyle, etc. Also the wife is bi-friendly so we are also looking for couples where the FF play is not a huge part of the interaction (seems to be a minority based on what we've seen). I love to watch the wife with another woman, and she enjoys some interaction, but she's there for the guy.
We've talked and I think we're just going to move a little slower, be a little more picky. That being said, meeting a couple friday (1st meet), meet & greet saturday, probably hit a LS club next friday and meeting a new couple Saturday. So much for going slower