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Originally Posted by exploringRM  For those that have had success in finding friends with benefits did you find people similar to you or people that you would have never thought you'd be friends based on the profile. |
I do consider Ted and I successful in finding friends with benefits. However, they were not met off of reading a profile. The friendship developed over months/years of spending time with them at various swinger events.
When we look at a profile, we aren't looking at it in terms of, "Hey, they'd make great friends"...we're looking at it in terms of, " They seem like they'd be fun to fuck".
I really don't think you can judge whether or not a couple/single will make a good friend/s with benefits just by reading a few words on a computer screen. Friendships develop over time and there's just no way to predict that by a profile. The best you can hope from, IMO, from reading a profile is that you might find enough in common (either physically stimulating or intellectually stimulating) to hopefully have an enjoyable night of conversation/dinner and/or play.
Now, that all being said, I'll try and answer the following as to what we look for in a profile when deciding if we want to meet someone.
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I've not seen it discussed, but it made me think of what are we looking for in other peoples profiles that make us think that we may have something in common.
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Age-looks-distance-is the profile well written-is the male homophobic to any degree-is the female bi-do they have any sexual hangups-was there anything written in the profile regarding hobbies, books, movies or music they enjoy.
If the above is answered in the profile and we find something we like, we'll contact them and see if they might be interested in us and take things from there.
We try and keep it simple...we're looking for sex, not friendship. If we become friends that's just a bonus but, it's not mandatory or necessary.
Teresa