So, this is probably new. I'm actually looking to replace a regular single male (due to his work schedule changing). Damn, when I finally found one that I liked. He was respectful, nice, clean, and great in bed. Sigh
I'm giving each one a nickname to keep them straight in this story.
I started looking two days ago online at two different sites. Here's my experience so far.
1 - "Boater" male who was part of a swinging couple. He has all the right attributes, but can't get away often (job).
2 - "Fireman" brand new to lifestyle male. Great looking and speaks well (on chat), but has no idea. Doesn't like the idea of on-premise clubs (they're not friendly to single males, he says). We don't want to invite a complete stranger to our hotel room. Is that odd?
3 - "Trucker" overly aggressive guy, freaked out because I didn't answer his IM right away. I wasn't even online when he text me. Geez!
4 - "Exec" Nice looking gentleman plays with a girlfriend (both straight). This is the most promising. Made a date at the club. Fingers crossed.
The initial meets will happen this weekend. Will let you know how things go.
Just wondering - how does everyone else approach single males? How do you nicely tell them there's no chemistry? I'm usually very direct, but don't want to hurt feelings either. Also, the last thing I need is another stalker (been there).
I thought about calling girlfriends to ask for references, and did talk to a couple. They couldn't give me anyone they would recommend.
I'm surprised at how difficult this is.
Mrs. T