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Originally Posted by LFM2  I'm not sure how long I'd wait. It's pretty much a whole week away and yet the plans need to be pat to be ready for fun, huh? |
The question is more about how long to reserve a proposed night when Couple 1 hasn't said okay to that night yet. I see that as a different question from how far in advance we usually like to make plans.
Around here, there isn't a club that's open every weekend, so when plans fall through we have to either just stay home or figure something out at the last minute. We find that if we want to see someone, we prefer to have "plans", meaning everyone has said we'd see each other that night and will not make other plans. We can wait till the day of the date to decide what we all want to do.
We also find that when we hear "Oh yeah, give us a call that day", or otherwise don't have a definite night agreed upon, that we end up with nothing to do. People are generally flaky. It is annoying to think you are going to see someone on a certain day, only to find out they have flaked out on you. We don't do that to other people, and we don't like it when it's done to us. We don't go out every weekend in general, so when we think we are going out, we look forward to it.
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Originally Posted by LFM2 I guess I'd give the couple 1 until tomorrow or so. After that, it would be their loss until the next open weekend. We wouldn't let any couple know that we were waiting for another couple to answer us. I would never want another couple to feel they were second or not first choice, ya know? |
Good point. I tried to make it clear to Couple 2 that we had already made tentative plans for that night. I hope they don't take it as a "second choice" type of thing. When they asked during our phone call, I stumbled a bit and shouldn't have mentioned Couple 1, just tentative plans.
Even if Couple 1 were second choice, we have already asked them, and we're not the type to just "un-ask". I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me. However, if I hadn't replied for over a day to a voice mail message asking for plans, I'd think no worse of the other couple if they made other plans.
Thanks for your input. And Julie, you are right that we gave them two days as possibilities, so they can't expect us to keep both open.