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***JustAskJulie*** · 01-03-2009, 11:34 PM

I'd let couple #2 open, that you have tentative plans for next Saturday but you aren't really sure how pat they are, then give Couple #1 through tomorrow to give you a call back. It's not like it's email, I'm sure they already have gotten your message and may have to make arrangements of their own to see if they are available. But, I would think that much time would be enough.

Since you gave them 2 different days to possibly get together, they can't expect you to keep them both open indefinately. And if they do get back to you later and want to get together on Saturday night, you have two options.

1. Invite them to join you and Couple #2. It could be fun or it could crash and burn. It could also be a saving grace if couple #2 turns out to be a dud (since you know you've already hit it off with Couple #1).

2. Tell them that something has since come up for Saturday night and you are no longer available, but you are still free Friday.

01-03-2009, 11:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,293 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: How long to wait after leaving message before making other plans? I'd let couple #2 open, that you have tentative plans for next Saturday but you aren't really sure how pat they are, then give Couple #1 through tomorrow to give you a call back. It's not like it's email, I'm sure they already have gotten your message and may have to make arrangements of their own to see if they are available. But, I would think that much time would be enough. Since you gave them 2 different days to possibly get together, they can't expect you to keep them both open indefinately. And if they do get back to you later and want to get together on Saturday night, you have two options. 1. Invite them to join you and Couple #2. It could be fun or it could crash and burn. It could also be a saving grace if couple #2 turns out to be a dud (since you know you've already hit it off with Couple #1). 2. Tell them that something has since come up for Saturday night and you are no longer available, but you are still free Friday.