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IvoryTowers · 01-03-2009, 05:24 PM

Thanks for the update and don't worry about the length.

It sounds like she is very conflicted--interested in you but very uneasy about being with a woman and uncomfortable with the lifestyle (swinging and poly) in general.

I think you are right to focus on keeping the friendship and being open and honest. It seems like nothing will happen soon, but you can keep the doors of communication open. I have to say that I agree with you--I would never ever stay with a person who abused me in any way. That's a red flag I think.

OTOH, you should know that HPV is not like other STDs. Some estimates have 80& or more of sexually active adults infected. Most strains are completely harmless (I think only 5 out of 90 or so are related to cervical cancer, although my numbers might be off). And HPV can be transmitted even if you use a condom. Plus, you can be completely asymptomatic. So I'm saying that you should hold the abuse against the guy, but not the HPV.

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IvoryTowers Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 303 Location: Philadelphia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ivorytowers	Re: I kissed a girl and I liked it! Now ???'s Thanks for the update and don't worry about the length. It sounds like she is very conflicted--interested in you but very uneasy about being with a woman and uncomfortable with the lifestyle (swinging and poly) in general. I think you are right to focus on keeping the friendship and being open and honest. It seems like nothing will happen soon, but you can keep the doors of communication open. I have to say that I agree with you--I would never ever stay with a person who abused me in any way. That's a red flag I think. OTOH, you should know that HPV is not like other STDs. Some estimates have 80& or more of sexually active adults infected. Most strains are completely harmless (I think only 5 out of 90 or so are related to cervical cancer, although my numbers might be off). And HPV can be transmitted even if you use a condom. Plus, you can be completely asymptomatic. So I'm saying that you should hold the abuse against the guy, but not the HPV.
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