The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Single Men: Do you prefer the husband just watch, or join in for a MFM?

iapr · 01-03-2009, 02:09 PM

Is that your husbands real reason for not joining in or is it just his excuse? It is really him that feels awkward or uncomfortable by it?

As the male half of a couple I have a completely opposite outlook than your husband. If a single male shows an interest in us I make it completely known that it will be an MFM experience with me being a fully involved participent. If that SM shows the least bit of discomfort with that concept he gets the boot. My thoughts are that if a SM is the least bit uncomfortable with a husband involved that means he is just a guy wanting a piece of ass and will have a higher chance of trying to get my wife alone for himself. Whereas if a SM is perfectly ok with it being an MFM situation that may indicate that he has a higher chance of being a "for real" lifestyler.

So in other words, IMHO the guys that are not comfortable with it being an MFM with a husband and wife, then those are the last guys you should be inviting into your bedroom. So instead of accomidating the comforts of the SM, you as the couple should be doing what you want to do and if the SMs don't want an MFM situation they should just find their own girlfriends like everyone else.

Now if the real reason is HE feels awkward and uncomfortable with another man in the bed then that is a whole other story and a whole other issue and one that should probably be discussed and everyone should be completely open and honest about.

01-03-2009, 02:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
iapr Has Left the Building Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 832 Location: State of bliss Status: couple	Re: Question for Single Men Is that your husbands real reason for not joining in or is it just his excuse? It is really him that feels awkward or uncomfortable by it? As the male half of a couple I have a completely opposite outlook than your husband. If a single male shows an interest in us I make it completely known that it will be an MFM experience with me being a fully involved participent. If that SM shows the least bit of discomfort with that concept he gets the boot. My thoughts are that if a SM is the least bit uncomfortable with a husband involved that means he is just a guy wanting a piece of ass and will have a higher chance of trying to get my wife alone for himself. Whereas if a SM is perfectly ok with it being an MFM situation that may indicate that he has a higher chance of being a "for real" lifestyler. So in other words, IMHO the guys that are not comfortable with it being an MFM with a husband and wife, then those are the last guys you should be inviting into your bedroom. So instead of accomidating the comforts of the SM, you as the couple should be doing what you want to do and if the SMs don't want an MFM situation they should just find their own girlfriends like everyone else. Now if the real reason is HE feels awkward and uncomfortable with another man in the bed then that is a whole other story and a whole other issue and one that should probably be discussed and everyone should be completely open and honest about.