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We considered a good friend as our first but we were the ones with reservations. We were afraid it would harm the friendship we had so we never approached him about it. Our first was a gentleman we found on Swing Lifestyle.We met him in a public setting to get to know him and see if there was a sexual attraction. He was very respectful and very well mannered at all times. We all got along great and our first time happened that evening.

We still look for guys through on line ads, the Mrs. decides who she might be interested in. We exchange a few e-mails and / or chat on line to get a feel for the person she is interested in. If that goes well then we set up a meeting, we always tell our prospective partner there are NO expectations to play on the first meet. If either of us get a bad "vibe" from the initial meeting we walk away, it has happened a couple of times. In one instance there was no sexual attraction on her part and the other just didn't "feel" right ( felt like he had some kind of hidden agenda). Mrs. Red always knows after a few minutes if she wants to play or not and I can usually sense this in her.

To answer your question the sex with strangers is what turns us on the most. I'm not quite sure how to explain it, maybe it has to do with the unknown, finding a new partners likes and dislikes or what he brings to the table as far as pleasuring the Mrs. We have had several play sessions over the last few months and each one was unique and erotic in its own way. All were very exciting and enjoyable. We would like to eventually find a "regular" someone we could play with when the mood arises, but for now we enjoy the chase and the seduction with new people.

I will say it can be time consuming and involves some work to find the right person through on line ads. You will get some weird to obnoxious messages but you just have take the bad with the good. You should let her make the choices and discuss who she is interested in together, both of you should be involved at all times. A club would probably be a much faster way to hook up with someone, but that just isn't our style. If you are anxious to make something happen soon, it may be a consideration for you. Find a local club and check it out, you may find what you are looking for or you may not. Just because you are there does not mean you have to hook up with anyone.