 Re: How To "NOT" Get Started?
Why has your sex life fizzled? Is your wife refusing to have sex completely? Or it it just getting boring?
If the former, your wife may need to see a doctor--complete loss of sexual desire is often caused by a medical problem. I'm sure she'd be happier if she could fully feel sexual desire!
If the latter, why not talk to your wife about your dissatisfaction? In a compassionate and non-judgmental way, tell her you are not happy with your sex life, ask what she wants and share your desires.
One of three things will happen.
1. She is also dissatisfied, is thrilled that you've initiated the conversation and you two can expand your sex life in ways that are mutually enriching.
2. She's upset that she isn't "enough" but agrees to talk and maybe see a therapist. The both of you work towards understanding and compromise (maybe she allows you to swing without her, maybe she decides she wants sex more).
3. She shuts down the conversation entirely. This is a sad result but at least you have a clear conscience about what you do next and you can be honest with your wife about your needs.
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