Yeah, we've actually had our rules set from shortly after I first brought up the subject. Currently:
1. No swap, hard or soft. Same room sex (only with each other) is OK
2. Go at the pace / comfort level of the slowest (I obviously tried to break this one)
3. If / when we get to any form of swap, condoms are a requirement, no exceptions (I'm "fixed," she's not, but we don't want kids, and definitely want to avoid STDs)
4. Nothing gets decided in the heat of the moment, if we feel we are ready and want to play with another couple (soft / hard swap), we will do that *next time* after we've had time to cool down, and discuss it rationally
We've talked about going to an on-premise at some point, and possibly playing in the "exhibitionist" area, although I've joked that we'll go to do that, and I won't be able to "perform"
but she'll be ready, willing, and able...
She got a laugh out of that one when I told her...
Thanks again
Mr.