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fun4t&c · 12-30-2008, 11:03 AM

Ivory,

I've read through your response several times, now. I can tell you're spot on with your judgement and will be a valuable asset to have as an educator, if you are willing to continue helping.

I realize it's about what I want to see. I accept that.

It's also important for me to make clear the REASON I think I want to see her play like that. For me, growing up, sex was a very cool place to go. It was my happy place like to other. I had a couple of very talented girlfriends and had some very memorable sexual adventures at an early age. For me, sex was the best thing on earth. It's been the most satisfying aspect of my life, which has also been very rewarding, otherwise.

So, like a dumbass, I "ASS-U-ME-'d" that if I could bring the right sexual experience to HER, the SHE'd be able to enjoy it as much as I have. She's been the kind of person who acts like she could take sex, or leave it. A "whatever" perception of it. I felt like that was sad in a way, so I was wanting to share my happy place (sex) with her. I know that's jacked up, because she should know what she likes, but I've found that, in other things, I've been able to show her things she loves and would never have known about, other than me exposing her to, like Thai food, Yoga, etc.

I'm disappointed I couldn't break the code on my own, but I also appreciate the opportunity to network with people who can clue me in, because love and enthusiasm don't necessarily guarantee understanding, especially when a woman hasn't learned to express her real feelings until recently.

So, thanks for the genuine feedback! I wan't sure what quality to expect on a forum like this, but I'm very pleasantly surprised.

12-30-2008, 11:03 AM	#7 (permalink)
fun4t&c Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 32 Location: CA Status: couple	Re: Setting the Hook? Ivory, I've read through your response several times, now. I can tell you're spot on with your judgement and will be a valuable asset to have as an educator, if you are willing to continue helping. I realize it's about what I want to see. I accept that. It's also important for me to make clear the REASON I think I want to see her play like that. For me, growing up, sex was a very cool place to go. It was my happy place like to other. I had a couple of very talented girlfriends and had some very memorable sexual adventures at an early age. For me, sex was the best thing on earth. It's been the most satisfying aspect of my life, which has also been very rewarding, otherwise. So, like a dumbass, I "ASS-U-ME-'d" that if I could bring the right sexual experience to HER, the SHE'd be able to enjoy it as much as I have. She's been the kind of person who acts like she could take sex, or leave it. A "whatever" perception of it. I felt like that was sad in a way, so I was wanting to share my happy place (sex) with her. I know that's jacked up, because she should know what she likes, but I've found that, in other things, I've been able to show her things she loves and would never have known about, other than me exposing her to, like Thai food, Yoga, etc. I'm disappointed I couldn't break the code on my own, but I also appreciate the opportunity to network with people who can clue me in, because love and enthusiasm don't necessarily guarantee understanding, especially when a woman hasn't learned to express her real feelings until recently. So, thanks for the genuine feedback! I wan't sure what quality to expect on a forum like this, but I'm very pleasantly surprised.