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Originally Posted by fun4t&c  Because she looks sexy, I tend to think of her that way, much more than she really is. So, I've stumbled and missed the mark a few times over the past couple years while trying to open her up and get her to enjoy her sexual powers a little more....
She automatically felt like getting wild and partying naked with others would be degrading to her. I saw it just the opposite way. I imagined it as her being the sexual Goddess, like Cleopatra, enjoying all the additional adventure of being the center of attention...
She's a knockout and I just wanna see her play. I don't even care if I do anything. I just really like the idea of watching her role play as a slut...
Since she clams up if she feels anything is pre-planned, I'm not sure how to get her into a situation that would be conducive to letting her exercise her inner slut, so to speak...
I know there are scenarios that would blow her away and attract her to playing, but I have to find the right group of people for her to feel attracted. If any of you are real lookers, or know someone who would help me sink the hook with her, I'd be deeply appreictive. |
Sorry, but when I look at the quotes above, I don't believe this really is all about her. Yes, you are happy just watching, but you start out saying that she isn't as sexual as she looks (whatever that means). You go on to saying she finds the idea of lots of people degrading and while she's gone along with some of your ideas she's rejected anything pre-planned.
In other words, your convinced that if you just get her into a 'spontaneous' setting with incredibly hot and yet respectful/polite/well spoken people who all want to play with her, she'll give in and have a wild night. Well, d'uh! I think just about anyone would have an orgy under those circumstances but it ain't gonna happen. And it ain't about her. It's about you getting to see your wife act the way you want her to act.
Furthermore, it seems that you assume (or hope) that if this magical night happens, she'll be the one asking to do it again and again. Honestly, she'd probably see it as a magical one time experience and NOT want to repeat it.
Sorry to be harsh, but I think you need a dose of reality. If swinging is really important to you, then you need to have a serious talk (or many serious talks) with your wife and find out what she's really willing to do. Maybe the two of you can go to clubs and watch pretty people, then have hot sex on your own. Maybe more.
But if, as you say, your wife is everything to you, the one thing you should not be doing is assuming you know what's best for her, what's 'really' in her mind, and thus trying to find the perfect hot couple or scene that will make YOUR fantasy come true while pretending that you are just freeing her inner slut.