Well, we're a happy couple who have been together for 15 years. Like so many others, our libedos are driven at different rates. We both take very good care of ourselves and get hit on often when we go out. Because she looks sexy, I tend to think of her that way, much more than she really is. So, I've stumbled and missed the mark a few times over the past couple years while trying to open her up and get her to enjoy her sexual powers a little more.
Unfortunately, due to her past, she mistook my intentions. She automatically felt like getting wild and partying naked with others would be degrading to her. I saw it just the opposite way. I imagined it as her being the sexual Goddess, like Cleopatra, enjoying all the additional adventure of being the center of attention. We've now gotten our communication accurized, so that's no longer a problem. Thank God. She means everything to me.
Because she has a really fun wild side that only comes out on short notice, it's difficult to plan anything sexual with her. It MUST be spontaneous for her and she has very narrow preferences. She only likes people who are also very physically attractive and not socially crude. She's a knockout and I just wanna see her play. I don't even care if I do anything. I just really like the idea of watching her role play as a slut for a night, because in reality, she's a good, wholesome woman, even if she LOOKS like a hot porn star.
Since she clams up if she feels anything is pre-planned, I'm not sure how to get her into a situation that would be conducive to letting her exercise her inner slut, so to speak. I want it to be fun for her. I want her to have a blast and become the one asking ME to take her to do it again. We've gone to a couple of wild clubs and a clothing-optional resort for one night. We had fun, but she didn't feel like playing with anyone. Maybe we just hit off nights. The crowds at those places were less physically fit and attractive than typical club crowds.
Ladies, Is there anything I should/can do to help her feel good about playing with, or in front of other people, other than being 100% supportive and respectful, like I've been? It's a huge turn-on for me, but I want it to be great for HER. It's no good if she isn't genuinely getting something SHE wants. I want her to open up and completely get off! I know there are scenarios that would blow her away and attract her to playing, but I have to find the right group of people for her to feel attracted. If any of you are real lookers, or know someone who would help me sink the hook with her, I'd be deeply appreictive. I can share pics if we can find a good fit. We go to Vegas to party a couple times each year.
Thanks!
