[IvoryTowers]

Being academics, we researched this lifestyle thoroughly before we got involved, and that included poly.

I am absolutely not poly because I am an extreme introvert. And I mean that in the technical sense--I'm not at all shy or awkward around people, but to recharge my batteries, I need complete alone time. I know I love Mr. Ivory because he's the ONLY person who doesn't drain me (and even then, if he goes off for a day with the boys I love it). So although I enjoy swinging, the planets would have to be in extraordinary alignment for me to want another relationship.

Mr. Ivory, OTOH, while something of an introvert, is more in need of emotional attachments, more connected, more passionate about everything. When we started swinging, I was worried about him falling in love with someone else and I told him so, but I'm not worried about that anymore. If he meets a woman and develops a connection, I think I'll be happy for him (I say think because how can one really know?). He's the most ethical and compassionate person I know, so he'd work very hard to make sure both his women feel special and I'm sure anyone he loved would become a good friend of mine. So what's to fear? Hey, it would probably work to my advantage, as I could get more alone time without feeling I was shutting him out!

So long winded way of saying poly friendly and aware.