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Originally Posted by ILoveGreenEyez  we are new to this also. How do you get over the shyness? we have been married since we were 17( and now are 32/31) so we have been only with each other for over 16 years.. I have had kids and no longer look like my 17 year old body, I am terrified that i will engage some other man,and then find out he isn't turned on by me. Help!! give me some of your first experience's to help me understand hpw to move forward with the swinging life style. |
First the body image thing: Ain't none of us perfect, as you will find out. When you make contact with someone, be very frank and honest in your description and pics. This will weed out the ones who have superficial 'standards'.
Second the shyness/nervousness thing: It is quite normal, as others have said, to be nervous or anxious the first time swinging, or the first time with a new couple even for the experienced folks — a natural human fear of the unknown. My approach is to make sure there is plenty of communication, both online and by phone, up front and exchange of pics to make sure everyone has compatible expectations.
Even taking these steps there are still butterflies as you approach the door or wait for your guests, but in my experience, that all dissipates in the first five minutes after meeting. Hormones take over and perceived rational standards take a back seat.
Good luck and have fun.