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Originally Posted by happywjc 
Our sex life is nearly dead.
I've been in life style relationships...
I mention her and 1-2 other guys, and she just says "your enough", but I know better!
Its all about her "pleasure " to me! I'd enjoy helping her get her dream!
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She doesn't want to swing, you do. You've swung before, no doubt miss it, and want to again because your "sex life is nearly dead" and you hope it will bring the dead back to life.
Your wife says your enough, but you say you "know better." I don't think you do. I think you're jumping to conclusions based on your wife's enjoyment of porn and fantasy. Enjoying those things doesn't mean she wants to live them out.
And I don't buy your pitch "it's all about her pleasure." Your post comes off as a man desperate to get his wife to do what he wants, to make his fantasies come true and make his sex life better.
I don't think swinging is her dream, but it's clear it is yours. Usually people recommend that you continue talking to her about swinging. In your case I'm going to suggest never bringing swinging up again, instead, wait and see if she brings up the topic of swinging
when you aren't watching porn or having sex. Then listen to what she says without directing her. Listen and don't push the subject. She may never bring up swinging, or she may surprise you one day and say let's give it a try.
LM