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mick2150 · 12-27-2008, 08:57 PM

I think in all of the dozen or so posts I have made, I have consciously outed myself as poly-supportive/sensitive - even if I am not right now, poly-active. But then there is such a broad spectrum of 'polyness' - each person & each relationship needs to negotiate & agree the ground rules that are going to work for all involved.

I am in a number of intimate relationships on-going - they range from 'close friends' .... 'Close FWB's' .... but no primary relationship at present (except maybe with myself!); the common thread is that all are open & honest and, as is appropriate to the circumstance, I have no problem sharing 'news' about my connections with any of my connections. The day that I sense jealousy rearing it's green-eyed head, is the day that I start to confront the situation & try to find out what the real problem is that lies below the surface.

The poly spectrum can 'swing' from one extreme to another! And it need not be a static scene - it can be open to adaptation & change. However, I do feel that there is a subtle difference between being 'poly' (whatever flavour) and being poly-active. I think it is a mind set - either you are poly-OK, active personally at this time or not, or you may be playing with the poly idea, but I don't think a born poly - hard-wired as they say - can really change; then I don't believe that those of my friends who are in one of the GLBT persuasions can switch their orientation from ON to OFF.

M.

12-27-2008, 08:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
mick2150 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Mississauga, Ontario. Status: Single Male	Re: Who are Poly Folks Here? I think in all of the dozen or so posts I have made, I have consciously outed myself as poly-supportive/sensitive - even if I am not right now, poly-active. But then there is such a broad spectrum of 'polyness' - each person & each relationship needs to negotiate & agree the ground rules that are going to work for all involved. I am in a number of intimate relationships on-going - they range from 'close friends' .... 'Close FWB's' .... but no primary relationship at present (except maybe with myself!); the common thread is that all are open & honest and, as is appropriate to the circumstance, I have no problem sharing 'news' about my connections with any of my connections. The day that I sense jealousy rearing it's green-eyed head, is the day that I start to confront the situation & try to find out what the real problem is that lies below the surface. The poly spectrum can 'swing' from one extreme to another! And it need not be a static scene - it can be open to adaptation & change. However, I do feel that there is a subtle difference between being 'poly' (whatever flavour) and being poly-active. I think it is a mind set - either you are poly-OK, active personally at this time or not, or you may be playing with the poly idea, but I don't think a born poly - hard-wired as they say - can really change; then I don't believe that those of my friends who are in one of the GLBT persuasions can switch their orientation from ON to OFF. M.