[iapr]

It's ok to be shy. Everyone functions at a different level of social ease. You don't have to be real outgoing or be a social butterfly. In fact many times social butterflies are too busy fluttering around to actually make any meaningfull connection with anyone and end up being bugs rather than actually playing.

What you do have to do is to engage someone and show an interest. If you can do that then you can make a connection but if you are so paralyzed by discomfort that can't engage someone in converstation or relay to them in some manner that you are interested then you may have problems.

As far as men not being turned on by you, that is an irrational fear caused by watching too much TV, looking at too many fashion magazines and watching too much porn. Men get turned on by women that can engage them in meaningfull conversation and show a sexual interest in them pretty much regardless of what kind of self-percieved physical flaws they think they have.

The real problem you will find when you get to the club is you will not find most of the men attractive. You will have a much greater hardship finding men that you will have as opposed to men that are not attracted to you.