The Swingers Board - View Single Post

Dienekes · 12-16-2008, 02:05 PM

Very interesting article. I enjoy this type of writing and discussion, though i think the author limits the audience by getting to much into eastern philosophy and religious overtures, which is unfortunate.

The basic ideas in this article are fantasticly powerful and useful. To realize that it is possible to have an emotion, and not be swept away by it. To rather engage it, look at it, even pat it on its head, and still not become 'attached' to that emotion is incredibly powerful.

In fact if one has any hope of ever being able to truly grapple with the complexities of the inner world, and the complexities of the outer world of social interaction; not being overwhelmed by emotion is critical.

No doubt for many swingers, the primary emotion to grapple with is jealousy. I think the successful swingers, dont push it away, over time they learn to recognize the sensations of this emotion and not get swept away by it. The same techinique can be applied to all emotions.

1. Recognize
2. Acknowledge
3. Patience
4. Relaxation
5. The ability to be free of becoming overwhelmed by the emotion.

Just my ramblings. Thanks for the link to the article, im bookmarking that.

Dienekes

12-16-2008, 02:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Dienekes Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 17 Location: Colorado Status: Couple	Re: Jealousy and the Abyss Very interesting article. I enjoy this type of writing and discussion, though i think the author limits the audience by getting to much into eastern philosophy and religious overtures, which is unfortunate. The basic ideas in this article are fantasticly powerful and useful. To realize that it is possible to have an emotion, and not be swept away by it. To rather engage it, look at it, even pat it on its head, and still not become 'attached' to that emotion is incredibly powerful. In fact if one has any hope of ever being able to truly grapple with the complexities of the inner world, and the complexities of the outer world of social interaction; not being overwhelmed by emotion is critical. No doubt for many swingers, the primary emotion to grapple with is jealousy. I think the successful swingers, dont push it away, over time they learn to recognize the sensations of this emotion and not get swept away by it. The same techinique can be applied to all emotions. 1. Recognize 2. Acknowledge 3. Patience 4. Relaxation 5. The ability to be free of becoming overwhelmed by the emotion. Just my ramblings. Thanks for the link to the article, im bookmarking that. Dienekes