What do you do when you see a couple who are having a lot of trouble being social at a party? Do you make an effort to be friendly, or do you just let them figure it out for themselves? Sometimes I see these people and my heart goes out to them, and sometimes I'll just march up to them and make conversation. But much of the time I'm talking to someone else and have no particular interest in the people I see struggling, so I end up doing nothing.
What do people here do?
Last Saturday night we went to a great house party. The host and hostess went completely overboard with hospitality. Their crowd was made up mostly of people they already knew. We were friends of friends at our first party with these hosts. So many nice people and everyone enjoying themselves in various ways, social and sexual.
Well, almost everyone. There was one couple who obviously felt awkward. They talked to a few people, but mostly stood around in corners and at one point we walked by the woman watching TV by herself. I'm not sure why they felt so uncomfortable, though since they were both very large (over 400 pounds) that may have had something to do with it, although we've seen plenty of very large people who had no issues. There was another couple we'd met at a party a couple of years ago. They also seemed awkward. I made a point to socialize with them for a few minutes when we first got there, but they didn't seem too friendly. I'm not sure if they were nervous, or whether they thought I was hitting on them and wanted to let me know they weren't having any, or just don't like me, or whatever.
A few months ago, we saw an attractive couple at a hotel party. They were both obviously feeling awkward. We were chatting with friends and dancing. I didn't want to scare these people, but thought they could use a friendly face too. I ended up not doing anything, but I wish I'd at least said hello and introduced myself.
I don't know what I am saying... this is why I almost never start my own threads
. Anyone have comments? Similar experiences? Opinions?