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Originally Posted by Alex855  Thank you all for the advice. Yeah I am moving at a snail's pace with this. Which is fine by me. The time lapse of my little story actually was about 5 years worth. I know we still have a long way to go but to me, her actually talking about it outside the bedroom was a huge step! meaning that it's in her mind now and actually craving other men. Whether we go through with it only time will tell. Like I said baby steps. What is the next step? not sure maybe point out a guy in crowd that I know she will be attracted to and ask her questions regarding her attraction to him and what she would do. Just to keep the communication open.
bbarns,
Thank you for the link and word of caution. Trust me it will not fall on deaf ears. |
Alex, When I first read this title I thought, "oh man are you in for a surprise." I don't think we can coach our partners in this lifestyle. Or, anyone for that matter. After reading intuition897s post all I can add is.
Listen to what she has said
Let it simmer and soak in fully. It's not so much about coaching. There is so much we learn about our partners, and then we actually show support, not leadership, training or how the game must be played.
Its about sharing, trusting, and understanding all these new open thoughts we find along the way about each other. Its really about being supportive more than anything else.
I hope its time to bring the Mrs. to the Swingers Board.