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Alex855 · 12-09-2008, 11:15 PM

My long time GF and both share similar lifestyle fantasies (MFM). BUt in reality this scares her. We have been together for a few years and we are both deeply in love with each other.

Ok for a couple of years the sexy talk was restricted to the bedroom, whenever I would bring it up out of the bedroom she would atomatically put a stop it. I don't push so I would leave it alone. Anyway as time progressed and as situations arrived where another man was hitting on her or dancing with her she would make flirty remarks as I "really liked watching her" of course my reply was "you know it does, you're the hottest woman I've ever met". But that was it, she never allowed the conversation to go further... Except when we were in the bedroom, if I even brought up a real life situation as in "I know you wanted to fuck him" she'd cum in an instant. But only open to the idea in the bedroom.

Fast forward still trying to get the idea in her head without being pushy. I bought a video with a girl who looks a LOT like her, there she right on the cover with 4 other guys, very explicit photos in the back. I purposely left whe she would see it along with swingwebsites. Anyway as planned she saw it and asked me about it. So I told her the (as she expected) that I bought the video because it looked like her, and about the websites that I enjoyed reading them for me and tht I would never surprise her with something like that.

finally the conversation turned... Finally she admitted to wanting to "fuck other guys, that sometimes she sees a really good looking guy and would mind having him in her" but she would feel really awckward if I was in the room, I just listened... Basically I told her that the thought of her fucking someone else really turn me on, as long as she comes home to me. At that point she said she would be scared and said "what if I only kiss them?" I told her that's fine as long as I'm your #1. THen we proceded to have sex.

Now I consider this amojor break through. Now I not quite sure how to move forward. Baby steps I know that.

Any info greatly appreciated.

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12-09-2008, 11:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Alex855 Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 27 Location: CA Status: m	Trying to coach her into the lifestyle... My long time GF and both share similar lifestyle fantasies (MFM). BUt in reality this scares her. We have been together for a few years and we are both deeply in love with each other. Ok for a couple of years the sexy talk was restricted to the bedroom, whenever I would bring it up out of the bedroom she would atomatically put a stop it. I don't push so I would leave it alone. Anyway as time progressed and as situations arrived where another man was hitting on her or dancing with her she would make flirty remarks as I "really liked watching her" of course my reply was "you know it does, you're the hottest woman I've ever met". But that was it, she never allowed the conversation to go further... Except when we were in the bedroom, if I even brought up a real life situation as in "I know you wanted to fuck him" she'd cum in an instant. But only open to the idea in the bedroom. Fast forward still trying to get the idea in her head without being pushy. I bought a video with a girl who looks a LOT like her, there she right on the cover with 4 other guys, very explicit photos in the back. I purposely left whe she would see it along with swingwebsites. Anyway as planned she saw it and asked me about it. So I told her the (as she expected) that I bought the video because it looked like her, and about the websites that I enjoyed reading them for me and tht I would never surprise her with something like that. finally the conversation turned... Finally she admitted to wanting to "fuck other guys, that sometimes she sees a really good looking guy and would mind having him in her" but she would feel really awckward if I was in the room, I just listened... Basically I told her that the thought of her fucking someone else really turn me on, as long as she comes home to me. At that point she said she would be scared and said "what if I only kiss them?" I told her that's fine as long as I'm your #1. THen we proceded to have sex. Now I consider this amojor break through. Now I not quite sure how to move forward. Baby steps I know that. Any info greatly appreciated. A-