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dgoody1234 · 12-07-2008, 11:29 PM

I really appreciate the responses. I have to admit I thought I would read something like iapr's posts.

You are right that we are in no way ready to experience anything like swinging. The fact of the matter is that I push my wife because I have the fantasies and I use alcohol to loosen her up and have her say what I want -- obviously that is not totally healthy, or fair.

I don't want to ever share my wife with another man and am completely selfish, and will admit that I just want the freedom to do what I want to do -- I guess I am getting that itch for other women and want the permission to be with them. I guess I figure that if she came along for the experience then I could never be blamed for cheating. I thought the idea of an escort would be the best way because I could keep it all business and be with a professional that wouldn't complicate things.

As far as the comments about the drinking, it's all me. I have a very addicting type personality and tend to use alcohol frequently for various reasons. I can see that pursuing this thinking is only going to end up badly and I am best suited to keep the fantasies to her and move on.

Thanks for the advice.

12-07-2008, 11:29 PM	#8 (permalink)
dgoody1234 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 2 Location: California Status: Couple	Re: Just the facts. Need your advice. I really appreciate the responses. I have to admit I thought I would read something like iapr's posts. You are right that we are in no way ready to experience anything like swinging. The fact of the matter is that I push my wife because I have the fantasies and I use alcohol to loosen her up and have her say what I want -- obviously that is not totally healthy, or fair. I don't want to ever share my wife with another man and am completely selfish, and will admit that I just want the freedom to do what I want to do -- I guess I am getting that itch for other women and want the permission to be with them. I guess I figure that if she came along for the experience then I could never be blamed for cheating. I thought the idea of an escort would be the best way because I could keep it all business and be with a professional that wouldn't complicate things. As far as the comments about the drinking, it's all me. I have a very addicting type personality and tend to use alcohol frequently for various reasons. I can see that pursuing this thinking is only going to end up badly and I am best suited to keep the fantasies to her and move on. Thanks for the advice.