[rayna]

Thank you so much for this Board! It has been so helpful to me as I work through my feelings (and my husband's) about sex, fantasies, and our marriage. But so many of the entries are from men trying to encourage and convince their wives. I'm hoping I can get a little more advice from the women here in letting myself go and taking the plunge that I know is right for us.

We are in our late twenties, have been together for 10 years, married for 8. We are very happy, in love, and have a very nice sex life. We were not virgins when we met, but we weren't that experienced either. I am pretty shy, my husband less so, but we try to meet each other in the middle, respectfully.

Over the last few years, my hubby introduced porn, stories, and fantasies into our sex life. He has always led the way, brought home a movie, sent me a story, or told me a fantasy while we are playing or fucking. We've tried new positions, anal, restraints and submission (me), etc. Sometimes I start off uncomfortable with it, but then a rush of excitement floods over me and we have a fabulous series of fucks and orgasms. It has been very exciting and pleasurable for both of us. He is a very nice hubby!!

But if it had depended on me, we'd probably still be having missionary sex once a week. I still can't share my sexual feelings and fantasies. While my husband has been able to sense the way to my lust and I am delighted he has, I am very frustrated that I am not letting myself fully participate. Whether it is just ex-Catholic inhibition, fear, shyness or what, I have been unable to tell him how much I want to take the next step.

Our latest and hottest fantasies are about swinging, specifically about having another man or men join us. My husband is dying to bring me a new lover or group of men, and I want him to very very much. It's not just a fantasy I want to dwell on. I really want to feel the touches and the cocks and the sperm. And I want to watch my hubby's eyes and cock while it happens. But I can't seem to tell him. He's told me he's ready when I am (and then we both cum like crazy), that he has a few men in mind who would love to fuck me. I am so ready and want to move to the next step.

I'd love to hear from the women here about how you told your husband you were ready? Did you just tell him outright, or did you ease into it? Did you write him a letter? Did you tell him in the middle of passion, or was it over coffee? How did you move forward?

Thank you for all the help you've provided so far, and any help you can provide to help us start!
Rayna