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Welcome to the Swingers Board Mr and Mrs dgoody

Originally Posted by dgoody1234

I will go straight to the point, since reading your posts you all obviously have a lot of incite into what I should, or should not do.

We will give it a try. However, we like to have fun..

1. Married 11 years.

We got 30

2. 5 kids.

3 here with 7 grand kids

3. Strong sexual drive by both of us. Do it 3-4 times a week.

O.K. we are getting older, but we can keep up with ya if we apply ourselves

4. Smoke and drink 3-4 times a week (a clue?).

Don't blow it in our face. Keep the ashes in the ashtray. No fighting over the potato chips.

5. Wife was a virgin when we married.

So was the virgin Mary. As for me, I kinda popped Mrs funs cherry before we said, "I do".

6. I was a sailor (say no more).

OK I wont. But we do have a boat and like the water in the summer. Its all we got, cool ?

7. Her family was hard core Christian.

We really don't care if we meet her family..... But, some Christians are cool too.

8. Since being together has seen that evangelical life is not for us.

Thats a good thing. You cant touch the screen while I make a funny face, and be healed as a swinger.

9. Wife watched first porn at 19 -- saw two females and had orgasm.

Were they in the room with her ?

10. Since being together I have seen her be very strong towards other women when she drinks.

Well ...... BE CAREFUL. Its all I got to offer for now.

11. Gives me fantasies in bed from time to time about another woman and me being with her and the other woman.

We like her way of thinking...

12. Next day says -- "don't talk about it."

This one you really need to work on. Talking and listening about everything is crucial. There is no other way. If you ever get to swing, You will be talking about it the next day... Trust me on this one.

13. Sometimes likes watching porn -- only if drinking usually.

Aha, don't fool yourself. She might be watching it while your at work. Mrs fun did. She just wouldn't fess up, in the beginning. This comes out in the Talking and Listening usually.

14. During porn session will get really wild and wants another woman to go down on her.

Well so do we usually. But lets not rule out a MFM scenario, just yet

15. At first was a bit aprehensive about me being with another woman -- now after 11 years of marriage, sometimes says she would be ok, as long as she gets licked and rubbed, and kissed (only happens when she is drinking).

Watch the drinking, I have been passed out on. NOT GOOD..

16. Have asked her about swinging -- says, "it will only destroy our marriage."

Oh yea... We, and all our married swinging friends could argue that fact.... But we won't.. We would rather encourage and share our happiness with others

17. I want to be with another woman.

So does me and Mrs fun.... sometimes.

18. I love women, so am afraid I could actually get feelings towards another woman -- she knows this about me, and is afraid as well.

You don't fall in love with my wife and I wont fall in love with yours. DEAL ?

19. I am a "free spirit" -- wife knows this and is always guarded against letting me go.

That needs defined a little more... Your not like crazy or anything are ya ? How do ya feel about standing in the path of a tornado ?

20. I have fantasies about her being with another man (couples only) but am afraid I am too jealous and would be angry if I saw my virgin bride be with another man.

We could turn out the lights I suppose. Its your call on this one.

21. A couple of years ago I almost called an escort -- at first wife said no, but then let me make the call??? Does she want this and just needs me to take control? Is this similar to when we I was in High School and the girl said no, then grabbed me to keep going? I am confused??
I hung up the phone and didn't do it, but thought the wife was intrigued.

I had a drop dead, hot ass, hooker tell me once after I declined. That I didn't seem like the type, that would have to pay for pussy. I feel pretty darn good about that. Even to this day.

Anyway, I think you get the idea. What do you all think? Thoughts? Comments?

I tried to explain a little about how we feel. Thanks for listening

Obviously I know that most of this seems to come down to alcohol, but I wonder sometimes if alcohol is not the social lubricant some people need to be honest about who they really are.

Look, I don't drink and play, I drive home for one. The truth is it effects me. I don't want to let anything hamper my senses about anyone interested in me. I like to feel a womans "VIBE" and be sure of everything. I like what I feel. I don't drink for myself, and the ladies.(no complaints so far) I can get naked and screw, enjoy the party. Although, It does feel awkward dancing sober.... Strange I suppose, but Its a problem I work on.

Mrs fun does have a few when we are out as do most friends. I love watching a woman dance, Its a really beautifully thing. Just keep it cool. Its all good. Right on ?

Any help would be appreciated

Listen to the other swingers chime in here. There is so much good advice here on the Swingers Board. Both of you ask anything you like here. Read some of what the women and men in the lifestyle have to say. Whether we want to have sex is about compatibility. You will see that. As Swingers we share something extrodnary.... You'll see.....