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mrfunfan · 12-05-2008, 09:43 PM

LM, you said something that she told me.."I stole the spotlight from her".

She said I'm more of a flirt now and get alot of attention. The problem is I see her getting attention all the time. She looks sexy and guys and girls will come up to her..but she says...it's unwanted attention and mine is wanted. I have to agree with her because most guys have to work for it. I'm the same guy as the guy that goes up to her..so my question is..why is it ok for them to flirt with my wife and it's not ok for me? I'm not doing anything different. I'm actually doing less and not even kissing or all over the girls...I'm just talking and making them laugh. Meanwhile..the attention she gets is alot more..

It's hard for me to always be the one to allow all the guys to flirt, kiss and be all over my wife and lay back...and think to myself...why is it ok for that guy and not me...She basically is giving that guy permission and not me and I'm her man...she should be happy for me just like his wife is. It's not really fair to me. I really like being able to relax...be myself..and enjoy the flirting and social atmosphere.

I want us both to have fun and I don't think it will happen unless she sees me as equal and stops worrying about losing me.

12-05-2008, 09:43 PM	#11 (permalink)
mrfunfan Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 32 Location: Los Angeles Status: Couple	Re: How do you feel about jealousy? LM, you said something that she told me.."I stole the spotlight from her". She said I'm more of a flirt now and get alot of attention. The problem is I see her getting attention all the time. She looks sexy and guys and girls will come up to her..but she says...it's unwanted attention and mine is wanted. I have to agree with her because most guys have to work for it. I'm the same guy as the guy that goes up to her..so my question is..why is it ok for them to flirt with my wife and it's not ok for me? I'm not doing anything different. I'm actually doing less and not even kissing or all over the girls...I'm just talking and making them laugh. Meanwhile..the attention she gets is alot more.. It's hard for me to always be the one to allow all the guys to flirt, kiss and be all over my wife and lay back...and think to myself...why is it ok for that guy and not me...She basically is giving that guy permission and not me and I'm her man...she should be happy for me just like his wife is. It's not really fair to me. I really like being able to relax...be myself..and enjoy the flirting and social atmosphere. I want us both to have fun and I don't think it will happen unless she sees me as equal and stops worrying about losing me.