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lizandtom · 12-03-2008, 10:12 PM

The addage goes, you go at the slowest persons pace. Considering your performance issues early on, I would have thought that she should have slowed down to a pace you were comfortable at so that you would be involved too, considering it was your idea to start with.

Six years is a long time for a couple to get comfy with the intertwinings of the lifestyle. Now you are getting yours and she doesn't like it one bit. It sounds like the harsh reality is that she is being very selfish.

As suggested above, I agree that you should explain that you want all swing activities to stop until you two can come to terms with what you both want and is comfortable for both of you.

She may not have any control over her jealousy. It's not something that one chooses to have or not, it just is. If you aren't satisfied in remaining on the sidelines (I would not be) and she can't come to terms with her insecurities then the reality is that swinging may not be right for you as a couple.

12-03-2008, 10:12 PM	#6 (permalink)
lizandtom Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 287 Location: Long Island, NY Status: Couple	Re: Wife Insecure after 6 years of swinging??? The addage goes, you go at the slowest persons pace. Considering your performance issues early on, I would have thought that she should have slowed down to a pace you were comfortable at so that you would be involved too, considering it was your idea to start with. Six years is a long time for a couple to get comfy with the intertwinings of the lifestyle. Now you are getting yours and she doesn't like it one bit. It sounds like the harsh reality is that she is being very selfish. As suggested above, I agree that you should explain that you want all swing activities to stop until you two can come to terms with what you both want and is comfortable for both of you. She may not have any control over her jealousy. It's not something that one chooses to have or not, it just is. If you aren't satisfied in remaining on the sidelines (I would not be) and she can't come to terms with her insecurities then the reality is that swinging may not be right for you as a couple.