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mrfunfan · 12-03-2008, 05:11 PM

Please...I need some serious help understanding what my wife is going through emotionally.

We have been in the lifestyle for over 6 years and everything seemed great until about 6 months ago she became very jealous and insecure.

I admit, we got into the lifestyle to fulfill my 3some fantasy and she went wild the first time after meeting a hot couple and really enjoyed being with girls and "hot" guys. I, on the other hand, was shocked because I had trouble getting hard so many time that I usually just watched her full and I soft played. She never felt good about it afterwards and had some guilt.

I am a very good looking guy and have no trouble with girls wanting me, we are both in excellent shape, I'm a very respectful man and not aggressive and I always want my wife more than anyone else. I prefer girl girl and 3somes with my wife but guys have always come attached.

Anyway, long story short, She has always had more fun until I started opening up and flirting with girls more and getting more attention and aroused. When I was able to finally full swap she got insecure about it and decided no longer wanted to share me.

I was shocked and hurt that she wasn't happy for me and resentful because I never got to experience what everyone else has with my own wife. I love her and this is just fulfilling fantasies and nothing has ever changed for me.

We have talked and taking a long break until we figure out where these real insecurities are coming from. She admits she doesn't know why because I have never cheated and I have never done anything to make her distrust me. I'm very open and honest with her about my fantasies. I'm very secure and have absolutely no jealousy and I feel we are on 2 different levels. She says she wishes she could be more like me. I thought she was the last 6 years until I started coming out of my shell more.

She is OK one day and points out hot girls and wanting to go to a party, or strip clubs, but will get jealous if I even look at another girl now.

I am very confused after all of these incredible years we both had in the lifestyle just hanging out with our friends and the way she was and we were together. We were quite the sexy couple together and now her entire attitude has changed and afraid she is going to lose me.

What do I do?

12-03-2008, 05:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
mrfunfan Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 32 Location: Los Angeles Status: Couple	Wife Insecure after 6 years of swinging??? Please...I need some serious help understanding what my wife is going through emotionally. We have been in the lifestyle for over 6 years and everything seemed great until about 6 months ago she became very jealous and insecure. I admit, we got into the lifestyle to fulfill my 3some fantasy and she went wild the first time after meeting a hot couple and really enjoyed being with girls and "hot" guys. I, on the other hand, was shocked because I had trouble getting hard so many time that I usually just watched her full and I soft played. She never felt good about it afterwards and had some guilt. I am a very good looking guy and have no trouble with girls wanting me, we are both in excellent shape, I'm a very respectful man and not aggressive and I always want my wife more than anyone else. I prefer girl girl and 3somes with my wife but guys have always come attached. Anyway, long story short, She has always had more fun until I started opening up and flirting with girls more and getting more attention and aroused. When I was able to finally full swap she got insecure about it and decided no longer wanted to share me. I was shocked and hurt that she wasn't happy for me and resentful because I never got to experience what everyone else has with my own wife. I love her and this is just fulfilling fantasies and nothing has ever changed for me. We have talked and taking a long break until we figure out where these real insecurities are coming from. She admits she doesn't know why because I have never cheated and I have never done anything to make her distrust me. I'm very open and honest with her about my fantasies. I'm very secure and have absolutely no jealousy and I feel we are on 2 different levels. She says she wishes she could be more like me. I thought she was the last 6 years until I started coming out of my shell more. She is OK one day and points out hot girls and wanting to go to a party, or strip clubs, but will get jealous if I even look at another girl now. I am very confused after all of these incredible years we both had in the lifestyle just hanging out with our friends and the way she was and we were together. We were quite the sexy couple together and now her entire attitude has changed and afraid she is going to lose me. What do I do?