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MrkLin · 12-01-2008, 03:27 PM

I agree completely with everyone who told you to take baby steps here. It's one thing to have a fantasy, and quite another to make it reality. I'm sure your man is hesitant. We all were at first, to some degree or another.

I also agree that a meeting in a neutral, public place with the understanding between all three of you that NOTHING more will happen that day would be a good thing. You two need to get to know him a bit further, and talking face to face is so much better than exchanging text, for reasons I'm sure we all know.

Your man needs to have no doubt in his mind that HE is the only guy for you. It's a big step to share your woman with someone else, and even in the LS, we sometimes have to back off and do a bit of a reality check at times. It sounds like he's just too worried about this guy getting too attached to you. That's a valid concern - even with a couple like us, who have been having MFM threesomes for about 16 years.

You might think about heeding the advice given by others, in that you try your first MFM threesome with a couple you have already played with. We've done that several times ourselves.

Still, overall, I think (and this is just my opinion) that the two of you need to back off a bit and work on your communication. Both of you have to be comfortable with everything you plan on doing. If either of you isn't 100% certain about something, you need to stop and back off. Talk about it. Find out what his concerns are, and act accordingly. If you've come this far in the lifestyle, I'm sure you can work it out. Just remember that there's no rush - take your time, and remember that baby steps are the way to go.

12-01-2008, 03:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
MrkLin Your Tent or Ours? Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 706 Location: mm Status: Couple	Re: Want to try a MFM threesome and I thought hubby was on board. I agree completely with everyone who told you to take baby steps here. It's one thing to have a fantasy, and quite another to make it reality. I'm sure your man is hesitant. We all were at first, to some degree or another. I also agree that a meeting in a neutral, public place with the understanding between all three of you that *NOTHING* more will happen that day would be a good thing. You two need to get to know him a bit further, and talking face to face is so much better than exchanging text, for reasons I'm sure we all know. Your man needs to have no doubt in his mind that HE is the only guy for you. It's a big step to share your woman with someone else, and even in the LS, we sometimes have to back off and do a bit of a reality check at times. It sounds like he's just too worried about this guy getting too attached to you. That's a valid concern - even with a couple like us, who have been having MFM threesomes for about 16 years. You might think about heeding the advice given by others, in that you try your first MFM threesome with a couple you have already played with. We've done that several times ourselves. Still, overall, I think (and this is just my opinion) that the two of you need to back off a bit and work on your communication. Both of you have to be comfortable with everything you plan on doing. If either of you isn't 100% certain about something, you need to stop and back off. Talk about it. Find out what his concerns are, and act accordingly. If you've come this far in the lifestyle, I'm sure you can work it out. Just remember that there's no rush - take your time, and remember that baby steps are the way to go.