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slevin · 12-01-2008, 09:42 AM

This is a very interesting question! I'm not totally sure how we'd feel; I can imagine cases where we'd be insulted and cases where we'd be indifferent to that and happy to play. I think that if we had tried to show some interest and engage with them only to be rebuffed while they chased another couple then we'd likely decline to play with them. If we'd all been out having fun and we hadn't 'made our move' with them, but found them fun and attractive then we'd probably play with them. I also think that if we'd played with them before, but they hadn't played with the other couple before, then we'd totally understand that and not care.

Purely guesswork though!

I also wonder how we'd handle the situation if we were out with more than one couple we were attracted to, but focused on one of them as who we wanted to play with. If we got rejected, would we shift focus to the other couple? Would we feel bad about how that might look to them, how it would make them feel? I'm not sure.

12-01-2008, 09:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
slevin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,215 Location: Toronto Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sk_forfun	Re: Second Choice or backup plan This is a very interesting question! I'm not totally sure how we'd feel; I can imagine cases where we'd be insulted and cases where we'd be indifferent to that and happy to play. I think that if we had tried to show some interest and engage with them only to be rebuffed while they chased another couple then we'd likely decline to play with them. If we'd all been out having fun and we hadn't 'made our move' with them, but found them fun and attractive then we'd probably play with them. I also think that if we'd played with them before, but they hadn't played with the other couple before, then we'd totally understand that and not care. Purely guesswork though! I also wonder how we'd handle the situation if we were out with more than one couple we were attracted to, but focused on one of them as who we wanted to play with. If we got rejected, would we shift focus to the other couple? Would we feel bad about how that might look to them, how it would make them feel? I'm not sure.