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Originally Posted by Pensacolapair  Couldn't agree more! We voted Number 3. I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade regarding this.. it just piques my curiosity. In my opinion, the effectivness of said feature is greatly reduced by the fact that it's open to way too many interpretations. In short, the only way it works is if other members interpret it the same way you do (For those of you who read the boards over on SZC, look at the flap over their 'Who's Friend's List Are You On' feature!) We've been on sites that had this feature, and we found out that a lot of times folks pretty much just look at profiles to look at profiles..it really doesn't mean anything.
I've kicked this around with those who have requested this feature on sites (there is a movement over on SZC now to add it) - and I always ask the same questions:
Okay..so I looked at your profile - now what? Suppose I wasn't interested in what I saw? Suppose I was, but there was something in your profile that indicated you wouldn't be interested in us? Suppose everything looked good on both ends, but there was something going on in our lives that had us unable to pursue it further at that time?
How does it help to know how many and what kind of people are looking at your profile? On Swing Lifestyle and SZC, they provide you with the total number of people who have viewed your profile. Want to make that count spike..? Change your default pic or post a new pic. Or, if you have not posted to their forums ever or in a while - post, and your count will go up. How is that useful data? So there are a lot of single guys looking at your profile (suprise!)..or couples..or bi couples...other than proving that people like to look at new pics, what about that is actionable?
And not to take things off course..but we found the whole 'kisses' thing on sites that had it rather annoying - it seems that quite a few folks think it's just a way of saying "Wow - Hot pics!" and have no interest or intention beyond that.
It won't ruin my day if any site has these features or adds them..as long as they also provide the means to turn them off. |
Its like you are reading my mind.
For a time we were the #4 looked at profile on LL and we didn't have any naked pictures. Why? We were a new couple with new pictures.
And yea the kisses thing annoys us too. Either email us a hello or not, we have never had a 'kiss' turn into anything beyond that.