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Mr.Essex · 11-28-2008, 11:44 PM

To the OP: Like a boxer, a single male must give better than he gets. And bragging about being a sex addict (when talking to swingers) is like punching yourself in the jaw as soon as you hear the bell.
Here are three tips

1. If you've never been complimented on your bedroom skills (physically/carnally, because anyone can make breakfast in the morning), you aren't going to make it very far in the lifestyle
(1a. Swingers do talk to each other, so don't think that bad behavior in one city can't and won't follow you back to Austin.)
2. If your conversation level is lower than the adult average, you probably won't even be given the chance to "prove yourself" physically. Most swingers are in the 35-55 year range. Their life experiences will usually be slightly different than their own, so a conversation that's trend/tabloid information/high-tech dependant is just digging yourself another hole. Likewise, noone wants to hear you blather on about politics (politics are the death knell to almost any non-emotional relationship)/religion/any other controversial topic. Tailor your rapport to your friends, not to your personal beliefs or current manias.
3. YMMV, but you should never forget that the women with whom you're flirting is (almost always) married/involved with another man. So always remember to honor his presence. Talking to the wife alone is bad, and talking to the wife's breasts is the touch of death (no matter how pendulous and handsome they may be). Most women, regardless of location, look to their husbands for final say, so keeping him out of the loophole is never a good thing (repeat, whether it's by ignoring him or acting as if his SO is your personal chewtoy). If they are anywhere near each other, show him the proper respect that you'd show to your boss or an older relative, even if she's "obviously" the pants wearer. In fact, even if the two of them are physically unattached (for example: you meet her on the dance floor, she grinds against you, etc) If you see her looking in the same direction at the same person repeatedly, make sure to introduce yourself (before or after) and acknowledge that he's there. Otherwise, you won't be seeing her again, and he may decide to let the owners/organizers know that you're not one of his favorite people. And for a SM, reputation is everything.

11-28-2008, 11:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mr.Essex Shy but brave Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 254 Location: North Dakota, where freezin's the reason! Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:MrEssex	Re: Single male seeking Swing Clubs To the OP: Like a boxer, a single male must give better than he gets. And bragging about being a sex addict (when talking to swingers) is like punching yourself in the jaw as soon as you hear the bell. Here are three tips 1. If you've never been complimented on your bedroom skills (physically/carnally, because anyone can make breakfast in the morning), you aren't going to make it very far in the lifestyle (1a. Swingers do talk to each other, so don't think that bad behavior in one city can't and won't follow you back to Austin.) 2. If your conversation level is lower than the adult average, you probably won't even be given the chance to "prove yourself" physically. Most swingers are in the 35-55 year range. Their life experiences will usually be slightly different than their own, so a conversation that's trend/tabloid information/high-tech dependant is just digging yourself another hole. Likewise, noone wants to hear you blather on about politics (politics are the death knell to almost any non-emotional relationship)/religion/any other controversial topic. Tailor your rapport to your friends, not to your personal beliefs or current manias. 3. YMMV, but you should never forget that the women with whom you're flirting is (almost always) married/involved with another man. So always remember to honor his presence. Talking to the wife alone is bad, and talking to the wife's breasts is the touch of death (no matter how pendulous and handsome they may be). Most women, regardless of location, look to their husbands for final say, so keeping him out of the loophole is never a good thing (repeat, whether it's by ignoring him or acting as if his SO is your personal chewtoy). If they are anywhere near each other, show him the proper respect that you'd show to your boss or an older relative, even if she's "obviously" the pants wearer. In fact, even if the two of them are physically unattached (for example: you meet her on the dance floor, she grinds against you, etc) If you see her looking in the same direction at the same person repeatedly, make sure to introduce yourself (before or after) and acknowledge that he's there. Otherwise, you won't be seeing her again, and he may decide to let the owners/organizers know that you're not one of his favorite people. And for a SM, reputation is everything.
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